HOW TO BUILD INTIMACY IN RELATIONSHIPS

How close are you to your partner, how well do you know your spouse, do you have a best friend outside your marriage?

One of the problems couples are faced with in their relationship is lack of intimacy. To some spouses, as far as they can go through their partner’s phone, Facebook account, wallet or hand bag they are close.

To others intimacy is being able to touch their partner’s body and explore it. To some intimacy is sex so the only time they feel close is when they are in the bedroom.

What really makes one beautiful is not their body but rather their heart and their soul. To get to know the true beauty of someone, means you getting to know their heart and getting into their soul; this is what keeps relationships and that is the true form of intimacy.

You are intimate with your partner when you learn to give them your attention, when you talk to them about anything without being judged, rejected or ignored; being able to share every little detail of your day with them without them getting bored or making you feel like a talkative; being able to share your fears, dreams, goals, etc. without feeling uncomfortable.

Being intimate with your partner means giving them your time, even when many people are demanding it. It is making time out of your busy schedule to be with your loved one, not worried about anything and all that matters is the time you enjoyed together.

You are truly intimate with your partner when you have him or her at the back of your mind and in your thoughts no matter how distracted you are.

It is when you are distant in location or geographically yet close at heart; it is when each time you miss them, you can go back to old messages, re-read them and smile like an idiot.

It is good to take care of your partner and spend on them, but that is not enough and that is not what keeps the relationship. Giving them your time does, for that it is one thing which cannot be bought.

When you learn how to spend time with your partner, you won’t worry about anyone taking them away from you, because you have their attention and heart. They carry you with them wherever they go. You are in their thoughts. They play back memories they have with you when you are away.

Relationship becomes beautiful when partners can talk like best friends, play like children, protect each other like siblings and love each other like husband and wife.

Men, keep this in mind, it’s not love if all she wants is your money and not your time.

Ladies, it’s not love if he can’t give you his time and attention but all he showers on you is gifts and money.

In conclusion “Love does not do the wrong thing. Love never thinks of itself. Love does not get angry. Love does not remember the suffering that comes from being hurt by someone” – 1 Corinthians 13:5 (NLV)