SIMPLE TRICKS TO GET RID OF NONSENSE IN RELATIONSHIPS
Often, the situation of life is unavoidable, especially when it comes to the way and manner young people survive amidst all hurdles of relationships upheavals. But the good news is that the few nuggets that I am about to share can provide a simple way of dealing with such issues.
- Create undisputed self-esteem
- Set your priority right
- Be a goal-getter
- Be humble
- Create a definite boundary
There is always a general opinion that everyone is created with a greater sense of responsibility and innermost attributes that differentiate them from other people. So, to put an end to how trashy people treat you, you have to be on your feet and say “NO”. Look here, it is not pride, it is just one of the basic way of letting others knows how valuable you are. If you are a lady, stop forcing yourself on a man that hardly have your time instead, create a good impression that shows that no one has time, do meaningful things that takes much of your time.
It could be personal development on your career, area of interests and passion, business idea generation, religious brainstorming, even sporting activities or unpaid services. Just to let you know that you are a unique being. And if you are a man, avoid stalking your woman on the social media or physically, especially by checking her chats, emails, calls history or eavesdropping her conversation on phone calls. What for? Come on!
You cannot stalk a woman from doing whatever she feels like doing. But you can make yourself her cynosure by giving her considerable attention and building trust, surprise her with good things often. Don’t wait till valentine season. Ladies love being tendered for and treated like a queen. Discuss how you think you can bring your relationship forward, let her know how important she is and how lucky the destiny has it to have come across each other in your relationship.
Set your priority right:-You can never expect to be treated like a valuable person in your relationship when you don’t set your priority right. The reason being that it is your mission. The core value onto which your ideal formulation will be based. You need to know what you want exactly, you need to know what you want to achieve within the time frame. If your relationship is purely friendship, fine! Define it. If it is purely on commensalism, no problem, if it is purely on friendship with benefits, please don’t delay to create a boundary, and if it is on marital direction, let the person you are dealing with get the point straight. In that case, I don’t support long-time courtship because it might breed unusual compromise in the long run, but not on all cases. Stop being enslaved by other’s objectives. Set your priority right from the beginning.
Be a goal-getter:-As human beings, one of the basic attributes that differentiate us from animals is the ability to think rationally, to differentiate between assumption and reality. To be a goal-getter requires meticulous ability and firm positive belief. I mean “I CAN” perception. The zeal to dare all obstacles. When you are in a relationship, you should try and be a goal-getter with whoever you are dealing with without pride. For example, most people change with time especially because of people they are surrounded with. If your partner has a particular habit that you don’t like, you could be the angel to transform such fellow. Don’t give up easily. Love is about sacrifice not by a mere saying. Be positive to make a good change regardless of any obstacles. Quitters never win, winners never quit. I am sure that even if you are to break up anytime soon, your indelible blueprint will speak well for you. You will remain an idol to reckon with.
Be humble:-No matter the situation, humility is the key to the survival of many annoying instances in relationships. Forget about those who say it is not possible. Humility is very good, it is a way of showing great maturity while expressing one’s thought without offending other parties. Even if you are to walk away sooner or later, it will make you set the pace. Although, it is not easy to be humble, yet, it is possible with self-discipline.
Create a definite boundary:-When you are dealing with people, you need to make sure that you create a definite boundary. You need to let others know some areas of interaction and no- go areas. How do you expect your partner to respect you when you give in so easily to his/her demands? For instance, if you have the habit of sending nude pictures to him or her, all in the name of love, you could lose your dignity and integrity soonest.
Look here, the one who cherishes you wouldn’t ask for such. It is demoralizing because it will show how naïve you are. How about having anal sex? Come on! You aren’t that stupid, are you? If your partner threatens you with all sorts of verbal attack because you refuse, do not be shy to say the truth. If all this nonsense continues it is likely your relationship might not end well. And as such, no matter how transformed you are in the future, those people might find it difficult to build their trust and confidence in your personality. So, if I were you I will create a definite boundary from the beginning. You are a unique human being, so, stop kowtowing to nonsense because you need a partner. Not everyone can afford expensive things because it is not meant for everybody. It is better to marry late than marrying wrong. Wake up!
Alaba Oluwadamilare Samuel , [Freelance Content Writer] [Communicator [Social media manager] Photographer
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