Are You A Man ?8 Things Your Wife Needs From You!In almost all of the separations and divorces, at least one of these 8 ‘things’ is missing from the marriage.
Too many men today have forgotten what it means to be a husband. So many men has forgotten their duties as the head of the family.
Today, you’re going to get a reminder!
Every marriage is different, yes, but ultimately there are some things that EVERY wife needs from her husband.
As you read through each ‘thing’, I want you to ask yourself, “Does my wife get this from me?”
If not, the time to change is now.
Let’s get started.
1. Every Wife Needs SECURITY From Her Husband.
To give your wife security means that you give her confidence in the future.
Every wife craves a feeling of security from her husband. Since the beginning of time, man has provided and protected his family.
A husband needs to give his wife that feeling of stability; no matter what happens, she needs to know he’s going to make everything okay.
Someone may ask: What If My Wife Is the Primary Income Earner?
This need for security does NOT mean you have to be the breadwinner. Situation may arise at some time in the home that the woman is the bread winner. But it means that your wife needs to be able to trust that YOU are going to make sure the family is provided for, protected and looked after.
If you’re NOT the breadwinner, you must be on top of financial planning. You need to make sure that the money your wife makes is being used wisely, and that you won’t be out on the streets if she loses her job.
2. Every Wife Needs CONTENTMENT From Her Marriage.
Make your wife contented of her marriage!
Your wife needs to feel that her life inside the marriage is both enjoyable and worthwhile.
How do you do that? How do you create that feeling for your wife?
It’s easy…
YOU have to genuinely believe the life you’re living is enjoyable and worthwhile!
When YOU are content with your marriage and your family, your WIFE will be much more likely to feel the same way. That is who a woman is!
This means you should actively enjoy the time you spend with your wife. Be engaged with her and your kids, if you have any. Look forward to the time you spend with your family.
When you’re home with them, don’t go into “bored mode” where you’re basically just trying to pass time until you get to do something you want to do, like doing something you love doing alone.
And, don’t ever let yourself dread the time you spend with your family as just one more obligation.
Your wife will be able to feel the moment you let yourself start thinking that way.
This Is ESPECIALLY Important If You’re In Your Late 30’s, 40’s or 50’s
Why?
Because this age-range is prime time for a midlife crisis.
A midlife crisis is always rooted in unfulfillment, and one of the best ways to combat, or better yet, prevent it, is by leading the way in contentment.
I have NEVER seen a wife fall into a midlife crisis when she felt content and fulfilled in the marriage.
3. Every Wife Wants to Feel PRIDE in Her Husband (and Family!)
Every little girl dreams of marrying a prince.
Every wife wants to know she married a great, worthy husband.
Your wife wants to be proud of her family. She wants to be proud of her husband, the man she has committed her life to.
And why wouldn’t she?
When you’re married, two become one. If your wife can be proud of you, then that means that she can be proud of herself.
Obviously, every husband has his flaws, but you don’t have to be perfect for your wife to be proud of the man she married. You just have to do the things that a husband is supposed to do! It’s so easy to stand out as a good man because just few men knows what is it to be a leading husband.
By showing your wife that you’re one of the rare breed of men are capable of going above and beyond for their marriage and family, you WILL stand out, and she WILL be proud of you.
4. Every Wife Needs SUPPORT From Her Husband!
She can count on you to be the one always standing in her corner.
Your wife needs to know that you are always on her side.
She needs to know that you’ve got her back.
She needs you to be the shoulder she can lean on when times get tough.
This doesn’t mean that you have to agree on every single decision in the marriage. The type of support we’re talking about here is not necessarily for things INSIDE the marriage relationship, but for things OUTSIDE it.
For example…
If your wife has an extremely stressful day at work, she needs to be able to come home and know that you will care about her day.
If your wife is feeling overwhelmed with the kids, she needs to be able to trust that you can relieve her.
If your wife gets into a big disagreement with one of her friends or relatives, she needs to know that you will be on her side.
Basically, your wife needs to know that you’re always going to be there to support her and hear her out.
Whatever trials she ever faces in her life, she needs to feel like you are the foundation on which she can stand when everything else is falling apart.
5. Every Wife Needs FRIENDSHIP From Her Husband!
Every wife should enjoy spending time with her husband.
A friend is someone who you enjoy spending time with. Ideally, husband and wife are each other’s best friend!
This means the alone time you get with your wife should not be centered only on the bedroom, or talking about family duties.
Of course, life is busy and especially if you have kids, a lot of alone time you and your wife get is going to be devoted to them. But, not ALL of it.
You and your wife should be able to spend time together as friends too, it means doing something that you both enjoy. Some men nags and nags, about home matters and children that there is no time again for the wife to enjoy his husband. Arguments and fights has taken the whole time.
6. Every Wife Needs Her Husband to Make Her Feel BEAUTIFUL
Every woman wants to feel beautiful.
It’s your job to make your wife feel like a catch!
Again, there is something primal about this, because truly every woman wants to feel beautiful. In fact, you could argue that every woman believes they ARE beautiful, and they want the man they married to recognize it.
Unfortunately, many women (and men) struggle with self-confidence about their looks. It is your job to combat that little voice inside your wife that tells her she’s not beautiful.
She needs to know that you count yourself extremely lucky to have her as your wife; you need to make her feel like the amazing catch that she is!
But! Remember that beauty is more than just outward appearance.
Make sure you appreciate the physical, intellectual and spiritual beauty of your wife, and make sure she knows it!
This doesn’t just have to be something you do with words… Your actions can communicate how beautiful you find your wife too.
If your wife’s love language is NOT words of affirmation, then get creative!
The important thing is that your wife gets that feeling of beauty from you, one way or another.
7. Every Wife Needs INTIMACY From Her Husband!
Every woman needs that indescribable feeling of closeness from her husband.
When I say intimacy, I’m NOT just talking about sex.
Intimacy is that feeling of closeness that a man and woman are meant to experience inside of a marriage.
True intimacy is the manifestation of deep love between two people, and it doesn’t always have to be physical.
Giving your wife intimacy is about the feeling you create for her, not the physical actions that you do.
Yes, intimacy DOES includes sex.
When you have sex with your wife, you should get that feeling of closeness, coziness, of unbridled love. But, sex isn’t the only form of intimacy.
Here are some other ways to create and maintain intimacy:
You can create intimacy for your wife through non-sexual physical affection.
You can give her that feeling of intimacy by understanding her as a person; show her that you understand her goals and her want.
You can create that feeling of intimacy by engaging her on an intellectual level; by challenging her and/or talking to her about something she has deep knowledge of.
You can create that feeling on a spiritual level… example of this is the wife snd husbandpraying together every night WITHOUT their kids. This time is husband-wife time, not parents – kids time.
8. Every Wife Needs Her Husband to Step Up as a FATHER
You need to be more than just the leader of your marriage; you need to be the leader of your family!
We have a severe father problem in our society today.
Many kids are growing up without a proper father figure. Many kids grow up without any father at all.
If you want your kids to have a happy, healthy and fulfilling marriage when they grow up, then you MUST take your job as father seriously.
But, it’s not just your kids that need you to be the father of the family… Your wife does too! She needs you to not only be her leader, but leader to your children too.
How to S.P.E.L.L. Fatherhood.
Today, I’m giving you an acronym to help you remember your responsibilities as father. The acronym is SPELL:
Strong – Always remain positive, confident and respectful in front of your kids. When you make decisions as a father, stand firm in them. When you say yes, it means yes. When you say no, it means no. You are “the Dad”.
Present – You are there for your kids. You get lots of face time with them.
But, remember that being present is about more than just physically being around your kids… A father must be present mentally and emotionally too. When you’re spending time with your kids, they get your full attention. Reinforce that they’re worthy of attention.
Encouraging – A good father is constantly uplifting his kids. He wants them to be confident. He wants to be a constant source of positivity. He isn’t cynical or negative.
Always look for opportunities to encourage your children… And not just general encouragement like “Great job!” or “You did awesome!” Look for specific ways to praise your children.
Loving – Pretty straightforward one here… A father loves his kids and his kids know that he loves them. This is communicated through both words and actions.
Leader – Finally, a good father leads his family, and his kids see him as the family’s leader.
If you can hit all five of these, I can virtually guarantee you that your marriage will improve. When you are active as a father first, your wife will find you attractive as a husband.
When you’re ACTIVE as a father, your wife will find you ATTRACTIVE as a husband.
