We all agree that ‘men are from Mars and women are from Venus’ which makes creating a perfect yin-yang balance in our relationships a tough task. Though every relationship has its share of ups and downs that a couple has to sail through together, have you ever wondered there might be certain things which you as a woman would be doing wrong? Whether you have recently started dating Mr Nice Guy or still searching for, there are certain relationship mistakes women keep making over and over again.
Below are mistakes ladies must avoid when making a choice;
- I will marry him because he is my tribe mate. The fact that he is your tribe mate does not make him good for you.
I will marry him because He is Rich. The fact that he is rich now does not mean he will be rich forever.
I will marry him because he is good in bed. A man doesn’t just become good in bed in a day. Sometimes this is an indication that he has being rehearsing with others , and you may end up not being his bus stop. Sex before marriage is a sin. If he can’t wait, let him go.
I will marry Him because he was the one who took my virginity. The fact that he’s the one who took your virginity doesn’t make him good for you in marriage. May be he just took advantage of your ignorance and weakness. Don’t be deceived.
I will marry him because he is good looking. looks are not stable. Looks do change with age. What if he had an accident, and lost some of his body parts will he still be your very best?
I will marry him because he is tall. The fact that he is tall does not make him good and best for you.
All these are negative reasons for marriage.
BUT MARRY THIS TYPE..
- Marry a man that can lead you.
- Marry a man that is fearing God and believe in him.
- Marry a man that has a dream and purpose.
- Marry a man with good character and conduct.
- Marry a man with great skills and potential.
- Marry a man that can play with you and pray for you.
- Marry a man who you have a future with.
It is foolishness on the part of ladies to date an unbeliever because of money.
Be Wise And Be Smart.
Now please not that choosing a man is not just for your sake but also for that of your child or children.
Later in marriage when you hit parenthood, you will realize what you really wish for in your spouse is not big money or a ‘six-pack’.
A pretty face and a good bank account are nice to have but at the end of the day, there is so much more you should be looking for.
At 3am when your child is crying, and your eyes are heavy and your body is weak for postpartum, it will not be how he looks or what he owns that will matter.
It will be the compassion in his heart and the love for you in his soul that push him out of the bed to attend the child immediately and tell you, “Go back to sleep, love. I got this.”
If I could tell the single ladies what to consider in a companion, I would say marry the man who will be the best father for your children. The man who will put you and your little family first, above all else. The man who is as responsible as you are in raising a family because you both are in it together.
In short, marry the person who will set a standard for a spouse in your children. Because in all of these, whenever you watch your partner with your child, you will find yourself falling in love all over again.
Choose wisely, not only for you but also for your child.