Dear Men, there are this you should do and not do when your wife is pregnant. It’s a very sensitive time so caution should be your big brother.
1-. DON’T TALK AS IF THE CHILD IS UNWANTED
Don’t make your wife and the child feel abandoned, even if the pregnancy was not planned
2-. DO PRAY FOR YOUR CHILD
Don’t wait for the child to be born to start praying for the child. Pray for the child even when in the womb
3-. DON’T CHEAT
When your wife is carrying your child, don’t dishonour her by entertaining another woman/women
4-. DO LEARN MORE ABOUT PARENTING
There is a lot of material about parenting, get knowledgeable. Even if it is not your first child, you can always improve on the kind of father you are
5-. DON’T STRESS YOUR WIFE
Stressing her will be stressing your baby. Remember she is the home for the unborn. Stress can make the child develop complications or even worse, lead to a miscarriage or still birth
6-. DO SERVE AND HELP AROUND
At this point, she is doing a lot, she might get tired easily especially as the pregnancy grows. Attend to her, massage her, shop for her. Take care of her and the unborn.
7-. DON’T JUDGE HER
If she develops mood swings, weird cravings or some mannerisms that are peculiar. If she struggles to sleep at night or becomes moody; understand her. It could be the hormones or the pressure
8-. DO TALK ABOUT HER AND THE CHILD/CHILDREN
Keep checking up on her. Is she OK? Does she have any fears? Is she having any discharge? Is her blood pressure OK? How is the unborn? What are her thoughts about motherhood?
9-. DON’T DEMAND SEX
If you have a wife who craves for sex during pregnancy, that is good, enjoy. But if she finds sex uncomfortable or less desirable or is not in the mood; don’t force. She might be in the mood tomorrow, look for ways to pleasure each other such as with hands
10-. DO MAKE HER FEEL BEAUTIFUL AND ATTRACTIVE
A woman loses her body shape as she expands, some develop pimples and stretchmarks and this can make a woman feel less attractive and self-conscious. Some wonder if they will ever get their body back. Boost up her self-esteem. Tell her she is gorgeous
11-. DON’T COMPLAIN ABOUT HER NEEDS
If she ends up losing her job or going on leave, if she starts having a big appetite and becomes demanding; remember it is more than her but the child too. It is only for a season
12-. DO ASK HOW BEST YOU CAN BE THERE FOR HER
Every woman is different. Ask her how best you can support her.
13-. DON’T DETACH YOURSELF
Don’t show disinterest in her and the child. Take her for check ups if you can, find out progress, come home early. A lot of men start to disappear during pregnancy because they don’t know how to be there for the wife and children. Don’t let that be you
