Many do not know that there is a level of grace for different struggles in marriage.

The fact that your best friend or neighbour is coping well with a challenge in their marriage does not mean that you would.

The habits you saw your parents tolerating for many years may be the same habits that will crash your marriage at your first attempt. We don’t copy and paste the struggles of others in marriage.

We don’t also photocopy the successes of others and apply to ours, because the stamina that produces those results might be different.

There are different grace levels for tolerance. We have different propensities for endurance. What is irritating to you might be comforting for your neighbour but you are not aware.

Study your grace level and manage the balance in strengths and weakness before settling for that person. This singular homework can extend the lifespan of happiness in your marriage.

There are different grace levels for different cases in marriage. If you haven’t been fighting taming Bears and Lions in the jungle, forget about confronting Goliath. Do not think that your grace will be sufficient for a case you should be fleeing from.

Some of the people you are trying to change and construct you have no business being there, your grace level cannot carry such missionary journey and you know it. Yet you are trying to be a low budget Julius Berger.

When grace is abused you will see disgrace. May it not be your portion in Jesus name. Amen.