A woman was shocked when she discovered her husband ran a background check on her.
She took to Reddit’s “Am I the A******?” forum to share her dilemma. She discovered evidence of the background check while using her husband’s laptop. When the wife confronted him about it, he didn’t think it was such a big deal.
“We’ve been married for three years,” the wife explained. “I only just found out recently that, before we got married, my husband ran a background check on me and my family. I found out because we were on vacation with his family, and they were doing things I had no interest in participating in a few times, so I stayed behind. He let me borrow his laptop because I left mine at home. I made a folder with my name, and I was searching for it when I found another folder with my name. The folder was full of reports on me, my family (including extended family) and two of my childhood friends. I read as much of the reports as I could before my husband and his family came home for the day.
She was horrified to find out just how extensive the background check was.
“At first, I was just hurt he would do something like this without talking to me first, but as I read more and started finding out things about my family and friends that I never even knew, I started to get angry,” she said. “So, when I saw my husband, I exploded on him in front of his family. At first, he tried to say it wasn’t a big deal, and his cousin chimed in to say it was normal and he wasn’t the only one who had done it in their family. When he saw I wasn’t calming down, he tried to get me to go into our room so we could talk about it privately, but I told him I wasn’t going anywhere with him and I was leaving. I ended up staying at a hotel for the night, and we both flew home shortly after that, cutting the vacation short.”
Redditors didn’t think the wife was wrong for being upset.
“I don’t see anything wrong with doing a quick background check when you start getting to know someone. But by the sounds of it, this went much deeper into creepy territory,” someone commented.
“I’d freak out too,” another said.
“It is NOT NORMAL to run a background check on someone AND their family,” a user wrote.
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